There are numerous pitfalls to avoid in a North Carolina divorce. One of the biggest self-inflicted wounds in a divorce is ending up in court because personal conflicts kept the parties from being able to work together. It is best to take the high road to keep that from happening.
The core of this approach involves treating the other spouse with respect. Conversations should occur without hostility and words should be chosen carefully. It is essential to put hurt feelings aside when communicating with the other spouse. If there are children involved, make sure to be as open and transparent as possible because appearing less than forthright can provoke the other spouse. However, make sure to not bombard the other spouse with communication through frequent and repeated texts. Try to contact them once per day and only communicate more if it is necessary.
When it comes to legal battles, make sure to choose them carefully. Certain things are not worth the cost involved. Any legal dispute will cost both time and money and will lead to stress and anxiety. Sometimes, it is better to concede and walk away because the alternative can be litigation and hostility. Although it may feel like a blow to pride, the biggest win of all is settling the divorce amicably without a trip to divorce court.
Hiring a family law attorney is actually one more way to facilitate the strategy of taking the high road. The attorney may assist their client by giving them a sense of perspective and teaching them strategies to keep relations harmonious while the details of the divorce are being finalized. Clients must understand that legal battles cost money and can lead to an acrimonious post-divorce relationship. If it is at all possible, try to avoid this at all costs.